Who Told You That?

I used to think my biggest problem was the choices I had made.

If you had asked me a few years ago what I needed, I probably would have said a fresh start. Better habits. More discipline. More faith. Maybe if I prayed harder or tried harder, things would finally change.

But looking back, I realize I wasn’t just struggling with my behavior.

I was living from an identity I didn’t even know I had.

One of the most profound questions in all of Scripture is found in Genesis 3. After Adam and Eve sinned, they hid from God because they suddenly felt shame. When God came looking for them, He asked Adam,

“Who told you that you were naked?”
Genesis 3:11

I’ve read that verse countless times, but one day it stopped me.

God wasn’t asking Adam because He didn’t know what had happened.

He was asking Adam to examine the voice he had believed.

That question changed the way I began to see my own life.

Because somewhere along the way, I had believed things about myself that God never said.

I believed I wasn’t safe.

I believed I was someone people leave.

I believed I had to earn love.

I believed control would protect me.

The painful part wasn’t just believing those lies.

It was that I had organized my entire life around them.

Our identities are powerful.

They shape the way we think, the relationships we choose, the boundaries we set, the fears we carry, and the decisions we make. Most of the time, we don’t even realize it’s happening. We think we’re making choices, when in reality, we’re often living from conclusions we formed years ago.

I’ve learned that our deepest wounds don’t just hurt us.

They teach us.

The question is, what did they teach you?

Did they teach you that you’re not enough?

That you’ll always be abandoned?

That your value has to be earned?

That you’re too broken for God to use?

Or did they simply teach you something that God never said?

That’s the journey we’re going to take together here.

Not just talking about healing.

Not just talking about trauma.

But learning how to recognize the lies we’ve believed, replace them with the truth of God’s Word, and begin living from the identity that has been ours all along in Christ.

Because healing doesn’t begin when our circumstances change.

It begins when we become willing to ask one honest question.

Who told me that?

I don’t know what brought you here.

Maybe you’re carrying shame you can’t seem to shake.

Maybe you’re exhausted from repeating the same patterns.

Maybe you’re wondering why you love the way you do, fear the way you do, or keep ending up in the same places.

Wherever you find yourself, I’m glad you’re here.

My prayer is that every post, every podcast episode, and every page of this journey points you to the same truth that changed my life:

If God didn’t say it about you…

you don’t have to keep believing it.

Welcome.

We’re just getting started. 🤍